It’s definitely worth speaking to the police. If you’re still being abused, keep a diary of everything that happens, and if you’ve had unwanted sexual attention or been coerced into having sex, speak about that as well. It so often goes with the territory.
If you don’t want the police to speak to your husband, let them know. If your husband is unpredictable, let them know how he frightens you.
The police will be able to help and support you. Also, please speak to your GP and anyone officially involved in family life.
None of this is your fault, and you are speaking about your experience of someone else’s behaviour. We so often normalise abuse and blame ourselves.
Your husband will behave in exactly the same way to anyone. There’s nothing personal about it. It’s just that you’ve got ensnared by this man, and these people are devious. They don’t think in the same way as normal people.