Birdykiss, hello and welcome to the forum, you are definitely in the right place. Your partner is abusive, being restricted is being controlled and nobody has the right to make you do anything. You do everything at home is also part of the abuse, calling you lazy etc…
To belittle someone is cruel, I am so sorry he is abusing you.
Please contact your local WA, they will help and support you or just listen, whatever you need. Also, there are some.really helpful books, I started with The Dominator by Lundy Bancroft and that was really helpful (recommended to me on this forum on my first post also).
Keep posting ❤ we are here for you and you are NOT crazy, it is all real my lovely xx