Hello Icandothis,
Thank you for your post. It sounds like a lot of the lies and false narratives that you have heard from him are coming back up for you.
The things we are led to believe about how our partners previous relationships played out play a big part in the image we create of them. Abusers will often play the victim, doting father, or ‘rescuer’ at the beginning of the relationship to create a false image of themselves before the mask begins to slip and we see their true colours. It can be difficult coming to terms with the idea that that version of this man doesn’t exist but when we accept this, it can be a huge step in breaking away from the relationship for good.
I imagine there is some frustration or anger around this and that is understandable. Thanks again for sharing what’s going on for you.
Take care and keep posting,
Lisa