These aren’t my own words but I read them this morning and they seemed so spot-on to how I felt that I wanted to share in case they help someone else get out safety…
‘When distance equals safety you don’t owe an explanation.
When explaining may lead to further abuse you don’t owe an explanation.
When someone has abused you, you don’t owe them anything. Period.
There can be a lot of guilt or shame for cutting of the abuser, for not communicating why we feel the need to keep them at a distance or feeling as though our behaviour mirror theirs when they would use silence to punish.
Maybe you try to reach out and ‘do the right thing’ and explain why you’ve had to make the choice to create distance. Often, this won’t go the way you hope, and this conversation will be manipulated or used to shift blame.
You don’t owe it to them to explain the consequences of their behaviour.
Please save and share to raise awareness 💜 ‘