Hi Aliceinwonderland. My opinion is that you should get out of this relationship. He’s displayed 3 major red flags- disrespecting your boundaries even though you clearly stated them, forcing you to touch him (which is also a serious boundary violation), and telling jokes that make you uncomfortable (and my guess is that he knows they are making you uncomfortable & is getting pleasure out of it). You deserve a relationship where your emotional & physical safety & boundaries are protected & respected.
You deserve to be in relationship where there aren’t any red flags that you are having to sort through. Trust yourself & what your gut is telling you. And remember that having a mixture of nice behaviors & mean/cruel behaviors is an intentional move on the part of abusers. They do this to keep us confused. Trust yourself. You deserve so much better than this.❤️