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30th September 2016 at 5:33 pm #29216AnonymousInactive
Is it my fault ive not dealt with my past . And i kept attractring these monsters. Abuse after abuse
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30th September 2016 at 6:42 pm #29222Peaceful PigParticipant
It takes a huge amount of courage to face the things we have to face. Many people never do. You can only start the process once you’re free enough and safe enough, with the right support. Because we are so scared we seek safety in the familiar, we ‘go home’ emotionally. Unfortunately for us, our familiar place is within an abusive environment. Your reactions are totally understandable and when you are ready this will change. Stay safe and practice being gentle with yourself xx
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30th September 2016 at 6:48 pm #29223SerenityParticipant
Hi, I Am Free,
Don’t blame yourself.
We are programmed to blame ourselves and to not make our abusers responsible, and this delays us in our dealing with it. We spend months or years letting them off the hook.
You can see it for what it is now. Like us, it’s like the shackles or the blindfolds have been removed from your eyes.
You are doing great. Show yourself great compassion. This will be your buffer when you go through the tough process of facing things and ultimately healing. We have suffered enough, and shouldn’t make ourselves suffer more by blaming ourselves. Our abusers have programmed yeti be too hard on ourselves ( and too soft on them!).
We’ve all done it.
We were the victims. We are wiser now. Things will be better for you in the future X
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30th September 2016 at 8:51 pm #29230AnonymousInactive
Iam still fighting to get him to court!!! I want justice!!!
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30th September 2016 at 9:53 pm #29237SerenityParticipant
Good on you!
I went to court and got justice!
I hope you do too!
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30th September 2016 at 10:09 pm #29241AnonymousInactive
Thanks serenity xx
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2nd October 2016 at 3:20 pm #29317chocolatefudgecakeParticipant
It is no way your fault, i understand that we as women tend to blame ourselves but its only cuz we have been brainwashed by these idiots!!
Karma will give him the bite in the backside he quite rightly deserves and even better he wont see it coming.I know what its like to wait as my ex hasnt even been brought in for questioning yet, it feels like they have forgotten me. But yet they tell you to move on.
Positive thoughts hun, always here if u need a rant xoxo
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2nd October 2016 at 3:25 pm #29319AnonymousInactive
My ex been on bail months!!!! I want justice now . I will not move forward till its over xx
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