“You are entirely the author of your own misfortune.”
I go through phases of feeling over whelming guilt over him and that he doesn’t see his daughter every day any more etc (my main guilt is for my daughter of course!). I saw this caption recently which was the quote from a judge sentencing someone for murder and I felt like it really resonated with me. It’s something I am now going to tell myself about him every day – it’s his own actions that made this situation, not mine!