I have started counselling (amongst other things!) and I am starting to realise I get my self worth from “rescuing” people and being responsible for them.
In researching this I have come across the Drama cycle, I have found learning about it has made me understand how my abusive relationship functioned. I have always understood the cycle of abuse but this drama cycle information has reinforced that message. I recommend people taking a look at it.
I am starting to get my head around this cycle and what that has meant for a lot of relationships in my life. I am now in the process of “cutting apron strings” for a lot of people who have become far to dependent on me. In fact, even my Ex was screaming at me to rescue/save him, in a very abusive manner. Ultimately I would never save or rescue as he was both a victim and a perpetrator. I hope that makes sense.