I can’t do this anymore :(

You are so brave. I cancelled our wedding the day I was meant to book the venue. And that was hard. Leaving felt like losing a future. I can’t imagine doing it two weeks before the wedding, when that future would feel so much more immanent. I imagine that this feels like the end to you. It did to me. I couldn’t imagine another future.

Fortunately I couldn’t imagine giving up either. And once I was safely out from under the shadow of abuse there really was a future. Cancelling the wedding wasn’t the end. It was the beginning. And my life now is happier and infinitely more fulfilling than it ever would have been had I married my abuser.

Just take it day by day at the moment. Or hour by hour. Or even minute by minute. Only tackle what you are able to tackle. Everything else can wait. Do nice things for yourself. You deserve them. It will get better.

Just wanted to give you some support. I was taken to the police station too for false accusations. The police know who is to blame, they deal with these people all the time. They know who are victims. Still a frightening thing but good you’re giving a further statement. Just keep moving forward. It gets easier. Have you read about trauma bonding. The reality is how can you love someone who hurts you? It will get easier, just keep going x

Hi helovesmehesays hope you are ok .So sorry this is happening to you all I can say is you are so brave for canceling and leaving him .Im stuck in a abusive marriage and I’m afraid to leave I haven’t the strength .You can do this don’t leave him win.Sending you a virtual Hug x*x

Oh my poor love, I feel your pain so much. Take your time to grieve your loss, join the world when you get some more strength. Baby steps for now. We’re always here to listen to you. Keep posting, don’t ever judge yourself, he’s done enough of that to last you a lifetime. It was extremely brave of you to cancel you’re wedding, better a cancelled wedding than a fight in the divorce courts.
Remember love, baby steps fir now. Ending a relationship is very like a bereavement, there are certain stages we have to get through before things get easier. Take your time, you’ll find your own way in how to deal with this.

IWMB 💕💕

You really have had a few days, no wonder you opened a bottle of wine. You obviously have such inner strength to have got through all that.

Can you get the wedding dress altered to make it into another sort of dress maybe, take back its meaning and associate it with a happy memory?

It will get easier over time. Treat yourself to some self care, you deserve it.

It’s so hard and I can empathise with you completely. I had to cancel my wedding too. It was so hard and so final. Had all these big plans and I actually felt so happy about starting a new life as a Mrs. I still havent cancelled the honeymoon. I feel so empty and I’m sure he doesn’t care one bit.
It does get easier. Take each day as it comes and don’t be hard on yourself when you have blips along the way, it’s normal and we all have them. I put on a brave face and say that I’m ok and I’m over it… the truth is, I don’t think I will ever be over it. I still love the nice him, just hate the drunk abusive him

This will pass if you just give it time. The man you fell in love with doesn’t exist. He’s fake. It’s the fake him that reels us in. Then the mask slips and his true self is revealed. The true him is a selfish self serving individual who only cares about himself. Hang in there, it will get easier x

I just want to let you know that you can do this, I can’t even listen to any soppy music now at all. Heard Snow Patrol on tv on McIntyre’s show, and one of their really popular ones came on and I was literally ready to disintegrate in front of him. It NEVER made me cry before. Some people liken the breakdown of our relationship to a death in the family. Allow yoursekf time to grieve your loss, allow yourself time to be angry. It will pass, it has to else we’d all be unable to function totally.
Take care
IWMB 💕💕