Absolutely power and control. Stick to the court ordered details in the child arrangements order. Gather your evidence of his continuing controlling behaviour and go back to court to have the court order altered. Once you try to negotiate directly with these men, it never works. Their goal is to see you distraught. They want to have the power and control so that you need to go running after them. He will be enjoying himself ignoring you as you try to see your child. Don’t negotiate with an abuser. Go back to the authorities x get women’s aid on your side too.