A LOSS FOR WORDS

[deerinheadlights]

I’m being bombarded with text messages from my ex!!! I completely went cold turkey and have not contacted him at all!!! I have not responded to any of his text messages either!!! should I text him and tell him why I’m no longer talking to him?? I have not because I feel like that in its self would, meaning me contacting him period would be adding fuel to the(his) fire!!! Plus I think he would twist & manipulate me contacting him in anyway, shape or form somehow to his advantage, he would take what I say to him and twist the truth!!! He keeps asking me why I am not &have not talked to him in quite some time ?? He is acting like he is totally oblivious as to the fact why I am not talking to him, when I am pretty sure he knows that I’m sick of the abuse!!! He is like could you at least tell me the truth of what’s happening and/or basically telling me I have basically just disappeared and/or probably with someone else, which I’m not & don’t want to be with anybody ever or at least for a long time, I need time for me, time to heal from the abuse, etc…. What does anyone on here think about this ?? any advice would be helpful and most appreciated!!! I feel no matter what I say or don’t say will incriminate me for more abuse in some fashion !!!

[deerinheadlights]

P.S. I am sticking to my Guns Metaphorically speaking, but I feel if I tell him the truth when he already knows the truth anyways he will go out of his way to make trouble for me either way weather I talk to him or I continue to not talk to him!!! I feel at a loss, As he is very manipulative!!! He knows I have finally seen the light on how he is, he wants to keep me in the dark!!! I was always honest with him on everything in the past yet he always called me a liar even if I proved the truth to him with evidence I WAS STILL INFACT A LIAR !!! now he is texting me with love bombing text messages, it goes from one extreme to the next!!! I’m still exhausted by him and he is not even here!!! It sucks being exhausted in your own home when he does not even live here, thank God for that at least!!! He is the type that wont quit!!!

[Lisa]

Hi deerinheadlights,

Thank you for sharing with us. I hope it has helped to post on the forum about what you are going through and how you are feeling. Do keep posting when you need to, there is support here for you.

Best wishes,

Lisa

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