- This topic has 5 replies, 3 voices, and was last updated 7 years, 4 months ago by
.
-
Posts
-
-
This man
This man who smashed plates and threw drinks over me
This man who called me a b***h and a c**t and a s**t
This man who said those things in front of my children
This man who stopped me giving medicine to my child (detail removed by moderator)
This man who told my son it was OK to hit his mum if he’d been provoked
This man who would regularly turn off the boiler so I would have no hot water
(detail removed by moderator)
This man who drinks two bottles of wine every night
This man who threatened to p**s on my doorstep if I didn’t allow him inside my house
This man who shouted into my house “Kids! mummy is being unkind to daddy again”
This man who told me as a wife and mother I just needed to raise my game and try harder
(detail removed by moderator)
This man who was angry that I accepted a prescription from the doctor without checking with him first
This man who would silence me with fingers on lips
This man who would slam his fist on the table.
This man who wrote (detail removed by moderator)to say he was worried I was mentally ill and a threat to their grandchildren’s well being
This man who said in front of my children “you are f*****g lucky to get a Mother’s Day card”
This man who refused to let my son into the house for two hours, a punishment for something he hadn’t done
This man who stood by my bed in the dark of the night whispering threats at me
This man who started sharpening kitchen knives every evening
This man who told my children “if you move house you will never see your friends again”
This man who sent my children letters in the post every day for three months
This man who stopped me seeing my children at Christmas
This man who told me “Leave, f**k off but you won’t get the children”
This man that it took me (detail removed by moderator) years to find the courage to leaveThis man.
This bully.
This coward.This is the man you want to raise my children.
-
Being Brave,
First of all, I want to send you a huge virtual cuddle. ((()))
I have been where you are. My Dv worker- when she described one of the (detail removed by moderator) worker’s mannerisms- told me that she was a perpetrator ( my ex specialised in charming older women. He thought they’d feel flattered. In her case, he was right).
Your ex sounds like mine. He sounds like he wasn’t just someone who hit out with his fists. He was particularly good at the psychological put- downs and cutting language. Emotional abuse is crucifying.
I wanted you to know that he sounds like a horrible, jealous and n**********c individual.
Don’t let him make you feel less of a person or mother.
Your kindness and sensitivity and strength will be the saving of you and your child. Your goodness will win over him in the end. Believe in yourself.
(detail removed by moderator)told he my ex was a good dad despite:
Him smsshing furniture and stealing from me
Left me for dead and I believe planning to kill me
Him trying to get me to send my son abroad to live with his parents (detail removed by moderator)
Him telling my friends he wanted to dance on my son’s grave andcthat he never wanted kids
Him sabotaging all my son’s attempts at success
Him waiting til I was out at work to make my kids kneel on concrete and tell them he never wanted kids and wished they were dead
Etc…..
But that’s ok: he flattered the worker, complimented her on her dress ( probably ) and she was puttybin his hands.
But: as my own GP told me: love is the most powerful force in the world. It’s stronger than manipulation, lies. Your steadfast live over the years will win in the end.
It’s horrific, I know. I sense your pain. Funny, we can’t see clarity in our own situations, but I can clearly see from your post that he is jealous. Jealous you love your kids, jealous you are a good mum.
Huge hugs x
H
-
-
Thank you. I am lost in the system. Doing everything ‘expected’ off me. They do not care how we ended up in the position we are in. They simply want to look ‘forward’. The system has let my children down. They ignore the context of our situation. Do not care about the years of emotional abuse and manipulation. They ask the children what they want over and over. Different judges. Different case workers. All giving him the benefit of the doubt. No support for me – not in real terms. The police and social
Services tell me one thing and then write generic reports that share equal ‘blame’. The sole reasons I left. To protect my children. To show them there was another way. Slowly undone in a fastidious manner. Subtley. In a way that only I can seem to see.I will always be their mum. I didn’t let them down.
-
-
Beingbrave, the power of Voodoo comes to my mind when I read your post.
Fight him. Do not let the authorities discourage you.
Complain. Read up about safeguarding and tell them where the real danger is.We are now in a stage of politics where women are sometimes listened to.
Write to your local MP or even to Theresa May.He will not win.
You are stronger. xx -
-
- You must be logged in to reply to this topic.
