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    • #44205

      Hey there ladies. I just wanted to post something positive to help those struggling to see a light at the end of the tunnel. I could never have imagined my life as to how it is today.

      Here are all the positives:

      I am safe
      I am healthy
      I no longer feel depressive symptoms
      I feel calm
      I feel loved
      I feel supported
      I feel balanced
      I don’t feel anxious
      I don’t feel fearful
      I don’t feel confused
      I don’t feel like I’m damaged
      I no longer feel that ‘my family are no good for me’
      I can hold down a full time job
      I am building a successful career
      I am not driving hundreds of miles a day for work
      I feel valued as an employee
      I feel valued as a person
      I feel valued as a member of a family
      I feel valued as a member of society
      I am no longer broke I am becoming financially secure
      I’m no longer an existence I am living
      I can see that there was always a way out
      I will have enjoyed 4 holidays by the end of this year
      I have plans for my future and I am building steps for my future
      I can recognise red flags
      I have started to trust family and friends again
      I am starting to trust people at work

      The list just goes on and on and on and on. Yes my heart was broken yes I was in an awful situation but the pain of a divorce heals. You can start to feel a sense of worth, a sense of belonging. I do still have my bad days but I’m having far more good days than bad. I just take one step in front of the other each day!


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      Hi Possitiveandlookingahead,

      Thank you for your post! You are doing brilliantly! I hope you are very proud of yourself! We are all very proud of you!

      Best wishes,

      Forum Moderator

    • #44256

      Well done proud over you

      Here’s my postive moments after a yr in leaving my abuser

      1 ..he did not break me
      2. Iam happy
      3.i can do anything
      4. I got a lovely home
      5. I taking small steps forward each day
      6.i can go out for a walk
      7.iam stronger to fight bk now
      8.i have a loving family
      9.i taking care of me first
      10. I helping others now empower them selves
      11. Ive not had a panic attack in weeks
      12..ive finaly found me again

      13. I can spot every red flag now

      14..ive educated myself never to be hurt or abused again

    • #45073


      I am in the really early stages of my freedom so your posts are lovely to read. Well done. You should be so very, very proud of yourselves. Thanks you so much for sharing. You inspire us little fledgling freedom fighters to keep walking forward

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