Hi there, talk to your local women’s aid. Make a safe exit plan. Leaving an abuser is the most dangerous part for you so don’t tell him what you’re planning. Get some legal advice, most solicitors will offer a free initial consultation. Hide money with a trusted friend as you will be asked to declare your savings on separation (if you’re married). If there are kids involved it will take more planning. Get any important documents out with a friend. Get copies of bank accounts marriage certificate passports etc. You could consider having him removed instead of you leaving using an occupation order. If you’re in an abusive relationship autumn seems a long way away. Why not leave sooner before things get worse which they always do. We are good at talking ourselves out of leaving because of the abuse we have suffered we are fearful, feel guilty and obligated.