At least if you are No Contact you have stopped giving, I gave so much and got so little back in return, since I have been NC I have not given anything to him that he knows about. He does not know that I am broken hearted and want to hear from him that I cry every day and night and feel broken, at least that he does not know any of that. I am proud of myself for sticking to NC and sticking to the principles of why I dumped him in the first place. He was not a good partner to me and that is why I dumped him, I KNEW it then although after a while with NC thoughts seem to naturally change. I struggle to manage and feel happy now but I believe I do not want to be with him.
I never really thought of going no contact as having to do less giving, more of less receiving but you are absolutely right – its exhausting having to respond and keep calm and put up with things that are said.
It makes such a difference to everything to be no contact and although it’s hard its worth it