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      Thisisit
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      (time frame removed by moderator) years ago I got out of a relationship that was damaging to my health and it wasn’t until I was out of the relationship that I realised just how bad it what and just exactly what my ex wife was doing to me in our relationship. We have 2 children together who are now (ages removed by moderator). I quickly buried how I felt about what had happened in my relationship and built up a wall to help ensure I did right by the children and put on a mask whenever around my ex.I got into a new relationship (detail removed by moderator) reconnected after splitting with my ex.Beginning of (time frame removed by moderator) me and my current partner started trying for a baby. Our son was then born (time frame removed by moderator).Around that time communication with my ex regarding the children became more hit and miss and she became argumentative and manipulative again regarding the older 2 children. (month removed by moderator) me and my current partner moved in together and since then things have gone from bad to worse and my ex partner has been controlling regarding the children and manipulative in trying to keep them from me (detail removed by moderator). In preparation for this hearing I have been looking into how my relationship was with my ex wife and It has brought up a lot of memories and feeling and I am struggling to deal with them and it Is now effecting my current relationship and making me start to wonder if maybe I’ve just got into another relationship where I am being treated the same as before but I had built such a big wall that I haven’t seen it until now.

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      Lisa
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      Hi Thisisit,

      Welcome to the forum and thank you for sharing what you’re going through at the moment.

      It’s understandable that the situation with your ex would have brought up memories hat you’re struggling with. It’s also very normal to have concerns that a current relationship could be abusive too, especially if you’re seeing similarities with the behaviour of your ex or how you’re feeling. You could contact our Live Chat service to speak with a specialist support worker about these concerns. You might also find the information in the “I’m not sure if my relationship is healthy” section of our Survivor’s Handbook.

      Take care and keep posting,
      Lisa

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