22nd January 2024 at 10:48 am #165450weecookie1Participant
I know this may not be close in severity to other scenarios and I am, greatly thankful for that. However, I am currently in a relationship and have been for a few years. Whilst in the ‘honeymoon’ phase we naturally spent a lot of time together but unfortunately this meant isolation from friends and family, as this became more prevalent I made much more of an effort to see my own. Whilst I am happy I see my friends and continue to do so, I tend to feel it is a burden on my relationship as he ignores me the duration I am out/ sometimes the day after or days running up to. In recent times he gets angry and tells me he wants nothing to do with me, doesn’t like me etc. I do my best to understand it from his perspective but I do believe if a friend told me someone treated them like this I’d tell them to run a mile!
As I said I know this isn’t too serious, but I’m worried it’s the start of something else.
Is it just normal in a relationship to spend all of your time together? Is he right to be annoyed with me? For reference, this is activities such as mini golf, bowling, cinema and the occasional night out.
22nd January 2024 at 12:54 pm #165452HereforhelpParticipant
Hi, you going out should be supported by your partner, he is giving you the silent treatment to punish you…which is unfair and a tactic to control you and who you see.
Please don’t wait for more or.escalation…if you are unhappy and something doesn’t feel right then something is wrong. Your feelings are valid, don’t let him override…
Keep a journal if you.can to document your feelings and any abusive behaviour..as it tends to be in patterns. Once you see the abuse you canot unsee it… if you ever feel like you have to walk on eggshells or that you need to alter your personality or behaviour to keep the peace…then run for the hills!
You are not alone
22nd January 2024 at 2:26 pm #165456LisaMain Moderator
Thank you for your post and welcome to the forum. I hope you find the forum a safe and supportive place to be with others who understand.
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