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You are not an idiot. I tried to end it and the ex sucked me back in promising to fix things only to discard me with a whole list of everything he feel a is wrong with me and how I have ruined the relationship. Embarrassingly he sucked me in aagain only to do it again. All this over the space of a couple of months. He didn’t want to fix it he wanted to dump me to appease his ego. He swans away as though nothing has happened and I was on my knees with crippling mental health issues feeling absolutely worthless. He did it on purpose. That’s what they do. Good news is over a year later I’m a totally different person. Normal people don’t, or even can’t, treat other humans like this. It probably doesn’t feel like it now but you have certainly dodged a bullet. Now read and research everything about abuse and abusive men. Understanding this isn’t your fault in any way shape or form will really help you increase your self worth. You can start again no matter your age but he is stuck with himself forever. I thought i was heartbroken but it was a trauma bond, knowing that helped me process it as I had previously beat myself up for feeling the way I did,I felt great shame and that took a long time to move on from. But I have now because I recognise I am normal, I was responding to a very traumatic situation with someone who is absolutely not normal!!!
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He’ll probably be back, I also think you should do your best to ignore him when he does, try to hold onto this feeling. You deserve so much better than this man.
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