And on it goes…….

[KIP.]

Years since his arrest. Just found out he has reported me serveral times to the Police but they (the Police) refuse to investigate. He tried this before with outrageous allegations that got me put in a cell for hours. The police apologised that time and took me home. I’m assuming he’s being so outrageous they would be harassing me but it doesn’t stop me being anxious again. He still plays the victim in all this accusing me of harassment. Accusing the Police of having a vendetta against him. Gaslighting. You begin to wonder for a second if you have actually been unreasonable. Hell no. Dysfunctional loser x

[Rockandrolldreamscomethrough]

KIP you’ve hit the nail on the head, he is a loser. A sad sad loser who is obviously still sore over the fact that you saw him for what he was and got away from him! If he’s done this kind of thing before the police will probably know he’s an attention seeker who is lying through his teeth to try and gain back some sort of control. What a l*****c. Try not to let him get to you x

[Serenity]

Hi KIP,

Remember, we should never be surprised at anything they do. They are capable of anything. Yes, they might deliver it in a very clever and eloquent way, but it’s just dirty lies all the same.

In the early days of joining this forum, I was kept afloat by your down to earth delivery of the truth: you used to say that they are basically big liars. Everything that comes out of their mouth is a lie.

I’ve had the odd moment when I have questioned myself. It’s that gaslighting thing, coming back to haunt us. We were brainwashed into questioning ourselves all the time. But I soon come back down to earth with a bump. He is a conniving liar, who accuses everyone else of everything that he is guilty of. And so does your ex!

[Lightness]

How horrible to have to continue to endure him trying to abuse you. It’s not surprising you feel anxious. You know that it is him who is the unreasonable one. Do you think there are any steps you can take to help put your mind at rest?
Lx

[KIP.]

Thanks for your replies. Serenity is spot on. They accuse everyone else of the things they are guilty of. Harassment! How could I have missed that? I just needed reminding of this. When you think about it he’s actually trying to harass me using the police. It’s horrible how panic still overtakes rational thoughts. A couple of years ago this would have panicked me for days or weeks, I’d have been on high alert again waiting for a knock on the door, set me back and induced sleepless nights and such awful brain chatter. It shows how far I have come on that painful road. Good riddance to bad rubbish!

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