Hi Bridget, you can have the life you want elsewhere. It takes a leap of faith but you’ve left before and know you can cope. Once you get away from him permanently there is no one that can hold you back. You will thrive. Your children will see you thrive, will see you happy and make their own choices. One day soon your children will all fly the nest and it will just be you and your abuser. No witnesses, no distractions and I’m quite sure your punishment will be severe. Try to get out now while you have strength, solicitors, women’s aid. Trust your kids to make the right choice. We can only bring our children up until they are young adults. Then it’s over to them to make life decisions x I was so wrapped up in my abuser I couldn’t see the larger picture of how life could really be. It’s a bumpy road but when your self esteem and confidence come back, we are unstoppable. You sound a strong capable women, don’t let him make you think otherwise x