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    • #9514

      I left my relationship (detail removed by moderator) now but due to having a little one I am unable to cut all ties with my ex. We had a run in at the weekend but that aside, I am constantly worrying and anxious of what he will do, things he says. The slightest thong will unease me for days.

      I am seeking counselling and am on anxiety medication but I am always on high alert and daily I am fearful and anxious. Some days I feel like I shut down and just go quiet and enclosed. I hate having to deal with him but I can’t change it. Anyone else feel like this after a year and any ideas of what has helped them?

    • #9527

      Hi There,

      Yes, I fsce gone back a bit and feel how you describe.

      It must often happens when he had managed to I icy some damage from afar- or when I am triggered by others behaving in ways that he did.

      I have been told to not feel bad about feeling how I do. It’s all ups and downs. Don’t fight the feeling, just let it wash through you.

      Think about what boundaries help you to feel safe and secure. Have you let any of those boundaries weaken again lately? What boundaries do you need to put in place?

      Be very gentle with yourself at these times. Gently think of some small things you’d like to achieve or complete, and try to start doing them at a very slow pace when you feel able.

      Achieving something new will help you feel strong and separated from your abusive past with him.

      The road to healing has many ups and downs. Remember to ask for help and always talk it out: this will help you to recover x

    • #9528

      Sorry about my silly typing errors!

      I meant :

      I have gone back a bit

      He has managed to inflict some damage

    • #9544

      Hi Hun

      Any contact with me ex leaves me on guard,not sure how to guide u , clearly u r avoiding contact apart from cause of child,i would discuss how u feel with your counsellor and see if she can help with any suggestions on how u control your feelings

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