I am with you on this Ariel…. any books or podcasts recommended for healing after an abusive relationship…. I am also decades married so there’s a lot of work for me to do. My new relationship has started to change, rather I am looking for any abuse, it’s like I am on alert for it and I don’t trust my own judgement yet. Something said to me (detail removed by Moderator) has raised a red flag, I don’t want it to but it is a red flag… the person I am now with asked me to let them know when I go out as we are on the phone on and off most days they asked me to let them know if I go out with a friend I do not know if I am being secretive as I don’t want to ask permission ever again to go out, or is it normal to just let your partner know you are going out? I really don’t know at the moment.