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    • #76169
      Feather
      Participant

      Well, (detail removed by moderator) after I appealed CPS’ decision to not prosecute due to lack of evidence, I finally received a report today.

      (Detail removed by moderator). Yes, it took me a few days to report it but that was because I was petrified. They’re basically calling me a liar in the report and this is the lowest I felt in the whole year since it happened. What is the point in reporting someone.

    • #76181
      Iwantmeback
      Participant

      I know reading this report is very hard, could you get someone to view it more objectively, even ask victim support to go through it with you,AGAIN write to cps disagreeing with their findings (Detail removed by moderator). It may seem like they are calling your version of accounts into repute but try looking at it that you did report him and you will keep on reporting him every time he hurts you physically or emotionally or verbally. (Unless you are free of him.) Even though you didn’t get the result you wanted and needed, he’s known to the police now, he’s on the radar as they say. If anyone else in the future reports him, your charges against him will show up and it may end in a court case just not with you as the main victim.
      Please don’t give this monster any more of your energy and thoughts, let yourself live and just be,without him sucking the life from you.
      Love and light sweetheart
      IWMB 💕💕

    • #76194
      KIP.
      Participant

      Take some deep breaths. Have you considered making a complaint against the police officer who dealt with your case? It sounds like they dropped the ball. Perhaps leave it for a day or two and then see how you feel. I for one would not let it drop until I had it clear in my mind that the police did a correct job, took a correct statement and give the CPS the correct information. It might be worth meeting with the officer and going through the report and asking for an explanation. At the end of the day if there was not enough evidence then that’s disappointing but understandable however if the police have messed up then they should explain themselves. Please don’t be too disappointed. It was very brave of you and you held him accountable and he is now on the police radar should other women report him x

    • #76195
      KIP.
      Participant

      Forgot to say I appealed a decision too and got a ridiculous answer about proving criminal intent. Legal b/s. The law can be a real a*s. It needs changed to be on the side of the victim x

    • #76200
      Feather
      Participant

      Thank you both of you. I really appreciate it. I just can’t believe some of the things that were said in the report. (Detail removed by moderator). Some other things as well. I’m going to get it reviewed again and I’m also most definitely putting a complaint in. I was dealing with two police stations in different regions and some things just aren’t adding up.

      Thank you so much for replying. I don’t feel so alone anymore. 🙂

    • #76205
      KIP.
      Participant

      You sound just like me. Tenacious. Keep going until you’re satisfied with their answers and it makes sense to you. It’s not often we ask the law to help us and when we do we should expect one hundred percent from all involved. It might be a lengthy process but it’s worth it in the end just for peace of mind.

    • #76221
      Iwantmeback
      Participant

      Feather, you’ve not alone, not on here, many of us have dealt with the legal side,police cps,courts, someone will be able to give you great advice and direct you who to talk to next. There’s nothing like someone’s else’s experience to help others in the same situation is there😏. Keep at it my friend, the more we make a fuss, don’t go back in our boxes, the more thre system has to listen to us, see these men for what they are.
      IWMB 💕💕

    • #76239
      Anonymous
      Inactive

      This is what worries me 🙁 I’m STILL waiting on a decision ftom the CPS on my case, but the police have spoken with them and having gone from being confident about a charge, are now telling me (detail removed by moderator). When it’s been so hard to get to the point of pressing charges, it really is a big let down. I didn’t know you could appeal though so it’s an option for me if it goes the wrong way.

      Sometimes I don’t know how we all keep going.

    • #76241
      KIP.
      Participant

      Hi Landy, coercive control is relatively new so I would ask them to explain the legislation to you as coercive control is often used alongside a physical assault to back it up. (detail removed by moderator). Please shout loudly, those are the cases that progress in my experience.

    • #76255
      Feather
      Participant

      Hi Landy,

      It took me about a month or two to get a decision from the CPS. If you’re not happy with the decision then you can appeal under the Victims Right to Review scheme. If you google or go onto your region’s police page, they should have an email address on who to get in touch with.

      I’ve told them that I’m not happy and the email I sent has been attached to the case. I’m going to be appealing again but this time it’s going to be an independent review. (Detail removed by moderator).

      I’m not being called a liar and I’m not taking this lying down. No way!

      Just keep pushing the police to see if they can hurry the CPS along. The wait is the hardest bit. Keep your chin up and let us know what happens. Xx

    • #76256
      Feather
      Participant

      Hi Kip!

      Tenacious. I love that word!! Thank you. I’m appealing again and then I’ll keep going until someone listens and takes note.

      Xx

    • #76261
      Anonymous
      Inactive

      Hi Feather. I’m way past a month or two and wishing I’d never bothered to make a statement. I just want it over.

    • #76702
      Feather
      Participant

      Hi Landy,

      I’ve heard that the longer they have your case, the better it is. Just hang on in there. Here if you need.

      Xx

    • #76703
      KIP.
      Participant

      Hi Landy, sending you strength to keep going. The time is taken up investigating so hopefully they’re doing a proper thorough job. You have the right to be kept upto date. Ask the officer in your case to ring you maybe once a fortnight for an update. It keeps your case highlighted. Please don’t give up. The one thing I know I would now regret was if I had backed down. Like so many women do when dealing with the stress of a lengthy process. Keep going. When I wavered I kept telling myself how b****y dare he treat me that way. I was incredulous when the realisation dawned that he chose to do that and that he meant To cause maximum damage to me. The mother of his child! Good riddance to bad rubbish x

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