So I am persevering with “No contact”. I have had a few wobbles where I have missed him terribly but I have fought the urge to contact him and I have blocked his mobile so he can’t phone me.
I was so scared of ending the relationship and how it would make me feel and what he would do but I can reassure anyone contemplating making that move, it’s hard but it’s worth it. The right support is important. The GP, counsellor, social services, women’s aid, police, local DV group- they have all been fab. The children are happier and every day is drama free. No shouting, no tension, no guilt, emotional manipulation, no fear, no violence. Nobody is abusing me anymore and i’m feeling good ❤️