Book- might be helpful to others?

[Sparkle wand]

I just thought I’d post this incase it helps anyone. I heard about a book by Andrea Mathews it’s called ‘letting go of good’ & it addresses some of the beliefs listed below. For me the beliefs listed below are huge & I think they keep me stuck & add to my desire to understand/make sense of & look for answers. I’ve just ordered it from Amazon and it will come this week.

. Always be kind.

· Always be forgiving.

· Always be faithful.

· Be loyal.

· Turn the other cheek.

· Give them the benefit of the doubt

· Do not judge.

· You are selfish if…

· Do your duty.

· You should love them unconditionally

I will let you know how I get on with it. I’m hoping it will help me tackle some of these beliefs that keep me stuck & add to my feelings of guilt & responsibility 😞

[SingleMomSurvivor]

Thank you for sharing! This sounds like a good read. I will check it out.

[Sparkle wand]

Singlemomsurvivor, that’s ok I just thought a lot of us could probably relate to those beliefs regarding our partners and others. I’m curious to see if it helps me as I am a rescuer x

[Twisted Sister]

all very laudable aims to have…until you are with an abuser, and switching them off because the rules change when you realise you are with the enemy can be very hard.

I would still like to be supportive/kind/helpful and loving, but…to those deserving of it, not those who seek to abuse.

all those beliefs need challenging, and fit into relationships that are not abusive.

ts

[Sparkle wand]

Twisted sister- I totally agree it’s not about getting rid of those beliefs entirely. I guess it’s about making sure we’re not completely governed by them so that we are taken advantage of, if that makes sense 😊

[Twisted Sister]

yeah, thats what I was saying I think.

Having the enemy in your camp changes everything, and those rule no longer apply.

I hope you find it helpful

ts

[Sparkle wand]

Thank you, I’m open to anything that might help me heal 😊

[Anonymous]

Thank you for sharing Sparkle wand. I can definitely relate!
I think I’ll be ordering that book.
I hope it helps xx

[Sparkle wand]

Ocean, thank you I hope it helps too x

[StrongLife]

Books are good and have ideas. It’s difficult to know messages and have them changed overnight.

[Author]

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