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    • #51685
      Fuzzyfelt
      Participant

      I just can’t do thus. Can’t cope with the mental torture, self blame . Want to stop and get off. I’m crazy and I can’t escape my mind.
      Been to gp who’s urgently referring me to mental health nurse in new year as , very helpful but I’m scared of how volatile I am.
      My house is a mess, cupboards bare, kids I’ll and I’m selfishly wrapped up in myself … just like he said I was. I hate myself.

      I look at what you are all going through and you have it so much worse than me .. I’m not sure I should be on here.

    • #51686
      Borntobefree
      Participant

      Hi fuzzyfelt
      Stop blaming yourself hun .
      I was where you are now … get all the support you need I did.. it will get easier I promise you…it is a roller coaster of a ride .. you can do this X

    • #51688
      Fuzzyfelt
      Participant

      I’m just scared because people say it takes months,years to get over this… I don’t want another day!

    • #51689
      Borntobefree
      Participant

      Fuzzyfelt
      Every one has there own healing time
      Have you got in touch with WA They are a great support … you may have ptsd because of what you went through mental health diagnosed me with it … you can inbox me anytime you are not alone .. I’ve been there and so many others X

    • #51697
      Fuzzyfelt
      Participant

      I haven’t got in touch with them because I thought it was for women suffering from physical abuse.

    • #51702
      Borntobefree
      Participant

      It’s not just physical hun
      It can be emotional abuse also

      Pyscolical trauma

      Please phone WA and get some support X

    • #51705
      lover of no contact
      Participant

      Hang on jn there fuzzyfelt and keep posting. Once the No Contact gets underway you’ll start to feel better. Take it one hour at a time.

    • #51716
      Fuzzyfelt
      Participant

      Thank you 🙏

    • #51849
      Lisa
      Main Moderator

      Hi Fuzzyfelt,

      I just wanted to check in and see how you are feeling? I hope that you are feeling a bit brighter? Christmas can be such an overwhelming time but just be kind to yourself and know that you are doing the very best you can. We are all here for you.

      Best wishes,

      Lisa
      Forum Moderator

    • #51860
      Fuzzyfelt
      Participant

      Thank you Lisa! Very up and down as I’m sure a lot of us are. Gone (detail removed by moderator)no contact, but just saw him which has left me shaken ( I just whizzed past him).
      I hope everyone here manages a peaceful Christmas.. here’s to a brighter new year 🌝

    • #51861
      IrisAtwood
      Participant

      Hi Fuzzy,
      Saying that it takes months or even years to recover is not the same as saying that you will feel as bad as you do now everyday until recovery. Most of us have better days and even good days, it is that the effects do linger and can be upsetting for a long time.
      This might sound really silly and simplistic but it helps me: I use affirmations when I am upset or starting to feel overwhelmed such as ‘I am OK and things will get better.’, ‘This too shall pass.’, ‘I deserve to be treated well.’, ‘I am strong and confident.’ You can make up your own.
      Anyway hope that you are feeling better. Keep going and you will get to a place that is better for you.

    • #51892
      Fuzzyfelt
      Participant

      You ladies help me so much … although I cry every time I get a reply.
      I’ve got a whole set of self help books, meditation and hypnosis, etc.
      Thank you for sharing what helps you, I’m forever talking to myself in the mirror!!!

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