As a last resort I agreed to couples therapy. I found the therapist and they specialise in abuse. We have had sessions together and separately.
We’ve spoken about our individual sessions and my partner mentioned how he is ashamed of how he used to physically fight with a family member and wouldn’t dream of doing that now…. and when I pointed out he does with me he said i was making it about me and asked how it’s relevant.
When I mentioned that this is something he has to deal with and change he said he doesn’t need the therapy to know he will never hurt me physically again.
So we are basically wasting our time and money aren’t we 😢.
I dont even know what I expect anyone to respond to this, I just know this is the best place to feel understood x