A good step to take, but it depends what you think you will do with the information you get.
I haven’t done this before, but I have been asked by a g/f of his to disclose details, but when I weighed it up I figured she wasn’t going to do anything about this information anyway and all it would do is cause more abuse, so I didn’t disclose anything (rightly or wrongly).
At least you won’t have that consideration under Clares Law, but, what will you do with what you find out, are you prepared to walk away from him? Or would you think he only did it to the other and wouldn’t do it to you? i.e. her fault.
Might it make you feel invalidated in your suspicions if it doesn’t reveal anything?
Just some thoughts to consider before taking this step so you are prepared for after.
One was made for me – it wasn’t helpful as although it provided information, I was already stuck in the relationship. When it would have helped was before I got into the relationship and especially before I decided to move in. It would have prevented me moving in.
Also, mine took about 4 or 5 months to come through! I don’t know if this is normal or an error, but it was a long time.
Thanks for the advice everyone, I think it will cement the decision to leave, if anything comes up, but if it doesn’t, it doesn’t mean that nothing happened. He already told me about an incident with his ex wife, so I’ll be surprised if nothing shows up.