he will be served with papers in 3-4 weeks and he has to answer it because its a court writ. he has no choice he has to attend court or the judge will make a decision on your evidence and wishes . youll go to court quite a few times if abuse is raised then a report will be written. they interview everyone involved and talk to the kids. it depends where you are CAFCASS deal with it in England and Wales and they have a good website. in Scotland it an adlitem so an independent lawyer xx
i know its daunting but it sounds worse than it is. its him thats brought you to this point you didnt do anything x*x there is always the option to let him take you to court? it wont give him the upper hand in any way. it dosent look good hes ignoring the solicitor xx