I’m struggling to cope with controlling behaviour from my ex. My kids don’t want to see him. There’s a pattern of letting kids phone me when they are with him and then I’ll go over and he gaslights me. He constantly stonewalls me. I doubt myself all the time and whatever happens do it is always my fault. (detail removed by Moderator) he uses against me. He threatens me with the police, he provokes me and then I get frustrated and I raise my voice to get through to him. He prides himself on staying calm. I don’t know what to do and I don’t know how to manage this behaviour. It’s affecting my mental health. Any help with what I can do to cope is much appreciated.
Can you use a third party for all communication? A parenting app? Set boundaries now or this will go on forever. Talk to your local womens aid. Block him on everything and change your phone number and email address.