9th February 2019 at 4:20 pm #72096DeedoParticipant
We have had some family counselling sessions, myself with new partner, the e kids, and the kids dad both by himself and in with the kids. After 9 hours split into three weeks there’s a break, followed by more sessions for some of us, and the counselling person wants me to have a session with only the children’s father. My abuser.
We are having the counselling because one child is depressed and suisidal and all children say they now want to live with me. Father is unwilling to consider this.
I am afraid of having a session with the father but would that go against me? These sessions are provided by relate and I thought their policy was not to see couples together with history of dv or da. Help!
9th February 2019 at 7:15 pm #72107NumptyParticipant
I would not advise it. I’m pretty sure that due to your circumstances you would not be obliged to go along.
9th February 2019 at 7:33 pm #72110IwantmebackParticipant
I wouldn’t do the session. It’s your prerogative, you have to do what’s right for you. WA say they will never do anything that makes you uncomfortable or are just not ready to do. I would hope Relate have the same ethics.💕
9th February 2019 at 7:42 pm #72112fizzylemParticipant
I am unsure, I think you need to speak to Relate and gather more info, if the answer still does not present itself to you after doing this, speak to other appropraite people until you feel ok with your decision which ever way you go.
I am hearing you feel forced into a situation you are totally uncomfortable with and that there is a child with suicial feelings. You need more info. Good luck flower x
9th February 2019 at 11:09 pm #72118[email protected]Participant
i was avised not to mediate, i thought that this might go against me but it didnt. its probably better to stick to the one script that he is abusive and for that reason communication will be scewed on his part. often these men have gotten away with their former tactics so many times they think they can hood wink the mediator. your children may need trauma therapy and no contact with him if their feeling like this. My gut tells me this is medical help not counselling if theirs suicidal thoughts. Definitely no contact im sure a court sheriff would also agree xx
10th February 2019 at 11:28 am #72141freedomtochooseParticipant
This may or may not help. I hope it does. I was sitting in the doctor’s surgery the other day and came across a helpline for young people (and also website and line for grown ups who are helping them). The name of the helpline is ‘hopefline’ you should find it if you google it.
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