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    • #64145

      I finally got the courage to phone up for counselling but unfortunately there are no slots available, so feel like I am back to square one! Anybody else have problems with long waiting lists?

    • #64146

      I’ve had this problem too, huge waiting lists and then I phoned one that my doctor recommended to me cause she said they will definetely see you and the guy was basically like no we are a generic counselling service your needs are too specific??!! I just wanted to sit down in front of someone and get help, I know abuse is very specific but I have a history of depression too so I felt it wouldn’t be an issue getting seen. It can be quite disheartening when you realise you have to wait a long time to be seen but it’s the first step to healing yourself. I’m going to my doctor next week cause I desperately needtosee someone, I’m just so broken. I really find coming on here helps too though xx

    • #64149

      Thanks for your reply feelingnumb, yes this forum is really helpful to me too, and fingers crossed we both get counselling soon xx

    • #64160

      I had to pay privately. Worth every penny. Just a few sessions to see me through a really bad time. I’m now using a local charity. Keep asking around your area. Google counselling service for domestic abuse. My local waiting list for NHS is 24 weeks and I don’t think they are specific to domestic abuse which is absolutely needed x

    • #64166
      Twisted Sister

      Already posted somewhere that I am on a 9th wait.
      It’s a worry as altho time helps, PTSD also shouldn’t be left untreated because it becomes worse in different ways, and causes long term damage.

      We just have to hang on in there and do as much for ourselves as we can,and yes posting here, amongst women suffering similar does give us a shared safe space to process a bit and get validation and support, which you don’t get with counselling that’s not working for you.

      So lets hope its worth the wait.

      Warmest wishes ts

    • #64284

      Thanks KIP and Twisted Sister yes this forum is a godsend, don’t know what I would have done without it!

    • #64306

      Hi cupofcoffee,

      I too paid for private couselling, which I started almost immediately. I’m in no way rich at all…it cost £30 per hour session. It’s expensive compared to some things but I just thought I was worth the help…plus privately you can book the time and day you want easier….all the best

    • #64353

      I’m sorry to hear about the difficulties people are having accessing support. I know it’s not the same but I’m reading a very helpful and comforting book that I wish I’d read years ago so thought I’d just post the book in case other people might benefit too (it’s probably been recommended before). It’s by Lundy Bancroft and it’s the Daily Wisdom one.

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