Does this pass?

[Escapee]

I am so mistrustful, I can’t look at a man without wondering what awful behaviour they’re hiding behind that seemingly normal facade. Even couples, I look at them and wonder if he’s another abuser behind closed doors.

I’m guessing this is normal after being in a long-term abusive relationship but does it pass or does the suspicion always remain?

Xxxx

[Fudgecake]

I do this too!

[HunkyDory]

Me too… x

[Yellowflower]

I do too. I look at friends relationships in a new light now it’s shocking when you see it for what it is x

[KIP.]

It does pass and there are nice men in the world. My dad is a gem. I think it’s only natural. If you were savaged by a dog, you would be very wary of dogs for quite some time. It’s also a confidence thing. Once that returns you have the confidence in your own judgement and decisions. My therapist describes an iceberg that has been picked away to nothing with an ice pick and slowly over time it will return to its original size. Little by little x

[Lightness]

It does get easier. At the start we are so vulnerable and we don’t know what to believe anymore (that was my experience anyway). I have met some really lovely men and also some overtly and covertly bad men. As time goes on, and if we put in the work, I think we get much better at trusting our guts, seeing the red flags and also seeing what healthy relationships look like. I’m a far better judge of character now than ever before. People reveal themselves eventually, one way or the other
Lx

[Escapee]

Thank you my lovely friends.

It’s good to know that I’m not alone in looking at everyone differently, particularly men.

And it’s good to know it does pass and there are decent men out there.

Xxxx

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