Emotional/mental abuse?

[Jellybaby@123]

I am in the process of getting a divorce. He blames me for all the things he’s done such as affair, gambling, drugs and says I pushed him to it. Won’t take any responsibility for any of his actions.
He calls me and the kids all the time asking where they are and why they don’t call or text him. He tells the kids I’m a c**t or a p***k. When he gets annoyed he threatens me with the financial side of divorce such as asking me how much my pension is worth, or tries to control us by telling me the kids aren’t going to their activities cos he wants to see them or telling me to take them to see him straight away. He comes to the house whenever he feels like. I feel so stressed and anxious every time he comes over or calls/texts and am on edge all the time as I don’t know when he might come to the house.

[AloneWolf]

Have you looked into getting an injunction? X

[Jellybaby@123]

I am now looking into a non molestation order. But it is scary to think I would have to go to a hearing in order to get one.

[swanlake]

Thinking of you. Coming over to the house whenever he feels like it sounds like mental abuse to me as you feel on edge.
I think that there are various injunctions and contact orders that your local domestic abuse service might be able to help with.
I’m also experiencing financial abuse with tens of thousands of pounds of debt. You might be able to get a free half hour with a solicitor to discuss if there is anything that you need to do to protect your finances. My abuser has lied and lied and lied about finances and I’m in the process of getting to know my rights better.

[Jellybaby@123]

Thank you. It has been awful feeling anxious in my own home but as it’s joint property I’ve felt like I have no choice.
Sorry to hear about your situation. That’s awful. I hope you can get help with your situation. I do worry about whether he has got himself into debt and if that will affect the situation.

[Stargazing1]

jellybaby@123 , so sorry to hear of how you are being treated. No one should have to put up with what is happening to you . As for him swearing too and calling the children that is despicable. Emotional abuse is still abuse. I hope things get better for you in the future.

[Jellybaby@123]

Thank you.

[Stargazing1]

Emotional abuse occurs in my relationship too . He said he gets stressed with me because he’s tired. I am not sure if I believe this excuse. There’s been times when he’s not been working and had plenty of rest and still this Emotional/Coercion stuff still happens . Showing someone a fist also has occurred so what does that tell me .

[Jellybaby@123]

Sorry to hear that you’re also going through emotional abuse. I think they always have an excuse or lie to make it seem like it isn’t their fault. At least you are aware of what’s happening and can hopefully do something about it?

[Stargazing1]

Thank you @jellybaby@123 . Your very welcome. I do wish for a better future for you . I hope you can get something you get into force to hopefully stop you having as much hassle as you are . You deserve happiness not hassle. I definitely think they make excuses. I’m feeling quite down today due to stuff occurring. Please take care of yourself please. Sending lots of love.

[Intr0vert]

Definitely look into getting an injuction. He is only doing it because he feels like there are no repurcussions for his behaviour.. wishing you the best of luck x

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