Why tips do you have for explaining to the children about why you are divorcing and they don’t see their father?
My kids had witnessed violence and arguments but it was so normalised for them that they seem to have forgotten it. They have regular calls with their dad but nothing in person for a few months as he’s been out of the country and today is the first time they became upset about missing him.
I was asked why we need to get divorced, did I decide it or did daddy want to too, and why can’t daddy come home. I feel really bad for them that they feel this and I want to help them understand, but also without looking like I’m blaming him.
To be honest, I resent the fact that after all the abuse and finally being able to find a safe way out, he gets to be the nice guy who wanted his family to stay together and frequently talks about missing his kids, while I’m the bad person and can’t fully explain it.