Feel so stuck

[Sook1e]

I’ve tried so many times to end things. But every time I try, I fail. I need help.

[Lisa]

Hi Sook1e,

Sorry to hear you are struggling at the moment. We know that it can take a woman to leave an abusive relationship an average 6 attempts to leave permanently. Please don’t be hard on yourself, as this is an extremely difficult process.
Getting help from specialist services who understand what you are going through is ideally your next step. Speaking with your local domestic abuse service can be useful, as they will do all they can to help by giving you emotional and practical support. They can make you aware of all your options to leave safely. Getting local housing advocacy from a worker or getting help going into a refuge/safe house can be discussed. Find more info on Refuges here.
For extra emotional support over the phone when you need it, perhaps you can try calling Supportline who offer confidential emotional support to reach people before they get to “crisis” point. They offer support by telephone, email and post. They work with callers to develop healthy, positive coping strategies, an inner feeling of strength and increased self-esteem to encourage healing, recovery and moving forward with life. They also keep details of counsellors, agencies and support groups throughout the UK. They cover a wide range of issues, including domestic abuse. They can also refer locally. You can contact them on 01708 765200.
I hope you find this useful. Please do keep posting to let us know how you get on. You are not alone in this.
Take care,

Lisa

[Darcy]

Hi beautiful Angel…. Sook1e,
Please dont feel stuck and dishearten with where you are… I know its hard to see from where you are but this is a journey, a process and it takes time.
I understand that you feel things are not moving as fast as you want them to but trust that it will happen when it is right and safe to do so
Practically I had no idea how I would ever be able to leave my abuser, but mentally I never gave up hope and eventually I did, so please keep believing it will happen
Keep the focus on yourself and start aligning everything so when that opportunity comes to leave you will be 100% ready
Stay safe my darling and stay connected … you are not alone
Sending you continued love and support
Darcy xx

[Eyesopening]

Hi Sook1e
It’s normal, I went back so so many times. It’s so true what Darcy said, I takes time and it is a journey. I was annoyed with myself before I left also with how long I was taking, but realizing how hard it actually is after I had left, I knew I had waited for a reason. You need alot of strength to get through the difficult time after you leave. You need to prepare really well.(In my case atleast)
Best things to help are reaching out for support, journaling, getting in touch with yourself again. Finding that inner light.
xx

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