Feeling annoyed at my mum who said earlier “looking back at your relationship you were vulnerable and a bit of a pushover”. Yeah thanks mum. I said “oh so it’s my fault?!” I told her anyone can be vulnerable to these men and they chip away at your confidence. Just feel it wasn’t a helpful thing to say.
Hi Hopesprings. No its not helpful is it! My dad told me I was ‘gullible’….thanks Dad! A kinder way to put it would be that we were too tolerant and caring and that maybe we need to learn from our past experiences 🙂 🙂
I refrained from pointing out to my dad that one of the reasons I ended up with a controlling man is because I had be raised by a controlling man….
It wasn’t helpful and it is never a woman’s fault they are abused. I have a friend who also suffered dv. I was shocked when she told me she had too. She’s strong, independent and professional. He completely chipped away at her.