Feeling sad & lonely

[Stuck in The mud]

Hi I’m feeling sad & lonely again , I’m still in limbo with divorce & house tenancy which is stressing me out , I’m feeling isolated and lonely , my adult son lives with me and is very quiet hardly communicating now I think he feels we shouldn’t be in limbo for so long and blames me as wants closure too after living the nightmare.I feel helpless & a burden on my children .I don’t socialise I can’t face it I’m too stressed , my blood pressure is suffering I’m having dizzy spells & headaches too . I fear life has passed me by and I haven’t lived , my marriage was literally prison and I’m not equipped to let anyone close so shut people down .I haven’t dealt with my horrible situation mentally as it upsets me too much I don’t want to tell anyone I meet either incase they judge me for it , my abuse was long term I feel it will take forever to process .I want a full and happy life at (detail removed by Moderator) times not on my side

[Eggshells]

Hi Stuck on the mud

I think that alot of the ladies will identify with your feelings. That means you’re not alone.

Online support isn’t quite the same as having someone sitting there with you but it’s kept me alive at times which no-one in person has ever done.

Yes, if I’m honest, it might take a lifetime to process everything but that doesn’t mean it’ll take a lifetime to start feeling better. You can start to feel the benefits your freedom long before you’ve processed it all.

I’m just wondering if you’ve been able to access any professional support?

[Chocolatebunnie]

Hi stuck in the mud

Eggshells is spot on that you are not alone. I agree that places like this forum are a lifeline when we are feeling there’s nobody who understands, there are people who can relate and help put some perspective on our situations. In fact it’s a lifesaver having this place to come to.

As you know, you really have to have lived a life of abuse to really understand it and even then it takes time, at least here you can have some connections with people who will totally get it and understand you, I’m also a little older in years and have fears that I’ve left it too late to make a new life for myself but we will and you deserve this new life x*x

The lovely ladies on here are full of support and I can only say for you to keep posting.

One of my children is not coping well either and actually has been very nasty towards me. It’s hard to know how to support them or how they will process things, but also hard to do so when you are needing to do just that too.

I think you will find a time when you are ready to start socialising, moving forward but for now don’t pressure yourself there’s no rush, sometimes I find just getting out for a walk helps. I have been where you are now many times and you will come through this.

See your GP get your blood pressure checked if you haven’t yet and let them know how you’re doing. Grab as much support as you can.

Keep posting lovely 💕 and sending a virtual hug x*x

[Stuck in The mud]

Thank you ladies , means a lot x
At times my head is so full with issues and I have a heavy heart you question if you’ve done the right thing ! It’s been really hard couple of years and I can’t see changes until I can make a fresh start ! I don’t think living in the same house is helping me it holds too many bad memories somewhere new would eliminate that part and would have a knock on effect of getting new friends , area etc that don’t know my past. I’ve not had councilling which I think I need to do.It’s tough I feel for everyone going through this , we’ve had to be strong for so long the reality is emotions will surface now frequently x

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