31st January 2016 at 8:34 pm #8737
Thank you so much for your posts and support on my last post.
I feel like I can finally put something in this topic!
I’ve not spoken to him all wkend. Only replied to one tx and feel so much better for it. I know I should have listened to everyone earlier.
Ive finally realised that I am worse when he is back into my head !!
He’s gone quite this wkend don’t know if that’s because I agreed to move back home or if he is just playing mind games …. But it’s been a nice wkend
I had a meeting with my boss today and my work are being supportive and I finally feel like I can write a list of things to get done this week and start move on forward 😀
I been quite bad with my alcohol usage so tomorrow is a new day and I intend to tackle everything whilst I am feeling strong!
I want to make the right decisions for me and my little girl.
Just hope he doesn’t start again when he realises I haven’t moved home !
I can do this – I love feeling safe and not being hurt inside or out.
31st January 2016 at 9:08 pm #8741Falling SkysParticipant
So pleased you had a good weekend. And quiet a few positives 🙂 Glad that works being understanding. Heres to a better future.
31st January 2016 at 9:22 pm #8743SavingmyselfParticipant
Your shining bright moon xx
31st January 2016 at 9:53 pm #8747
I’m so going to do this !!!! Xx
Hope I don’t let myself down again .
I’ve done it though – he can’t get me !!
Ahhhh feeling brave at mo xx
31st January 2016 at 9:59 pm #8749katieloveParticipant
That is fantastic! You are also starting to anticipate his next moves which means you must plan yours. If he phones – do not answer. If he texts – do not answer. Always leave it over night so you can think the next day: ‘What should I do?’
And you are not letting yourself down. You have got you and your daughter to a place of safety.
If stopping drinking is too hard in one go, cut it down day by day. Tomorrow is a new month, and a short one. Try to set a target for the end of it.
Lots of love and hope x x
31st January 2016 at 10:22 pm #8751
That’s good advice Katielove because I normally respond straight away – just what I’m conditioned to!
I’m meeting an alcohol support worker tomor as I want to get on top of this as alcohol has always been my coping mechanism.
We are so different since being in refuge – it feels right as long as I shut my ears to him !!
For the first time I can see a life after this for us ,
A life that he is not going to take from me !! Xx
1st February 2016 at 8:42 am #8763Confused123Participant
So good to hear u feeling stronger, getting that support in, don’t feel bad if u had one contact with him over weekend, look at positive u realized how he has negative impact on u, u realized how u need to stay away from him, this is part of the closure we need to see to get over them, if u feel u r drinking too much get support with that too, u doing so well, so proud of u hun, u can do this
1st February 2016 at 9:10 am #8765
Thank you so much for those encouraging words, I finally feel that I can look forward and begin to enjoy life again xx
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