Freedom of information and Mediation

[TiredMamaBoop]

Hi all,

Has anyone avoided joint mediation? I have my first solo meeting (day removed by Moderator) but mediator has said I need proof of domestic abuse to avoid mediation. He won’t just take my word for it. (legal detail removed by Moderator)

I have tried to speak with ex over issues with the children and can see now how he has been controlling me through the children. Being unkind and controlling to them, so it gets back to me. Which has effected the children mentally but he doesn’t get empathy or why his behaviour is damaging.

Has anyone managed to gain records from women’s aid or other agencies? I didn’t take up a support worker, as I felt find to navigate myself. But several years in and I’m still struggling to find my feet.

Any advice would be appreciated.

I also know if I can settle outside court that would be wise but equally ex is unreasonable so won’t want to make child contact arrangement with me.

Children have finally said they don’t want to see Dad due to his behaviour and effect on their mental health.

[Lisa]

Hi TiredMamaBoop,

It’s such a barrier to survivors being able to keep safe and avoid mediation with an abuser that there is specific proof of domestic abuse needed. Many women don’t reach out for professional support at the time, some may have felt capable of navigating the situation, as you do, or perhaps they didn’t understand it was domestic abuse until later, or they weren’t able to access support. If you haven’t already been provided with this, you can find the list of all the kinds of evidence that are accepted starting on page 5 of the C100 form.

I will send you a PM about accessing records, to avoid sharing any identifying information on the public forum.

Take care and keep posting,
Lisa

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