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I haven’t wrote anything down for a long time now and I wanted to share my journey.
I have been in the ‘washing machine’ now for nearly four years.
Last year I finally realised that it wasn’t normal and I started to dig for information and analyse my situation, which brought me to finally that it was actually domestic abuse.The last incident he pulled knives out on me and my child and threatened to kill me and burn the house down. Which lead to Ss involvement.
Anyway I didn’t press charges but what I did do is try my absolute best to build myself back up again. Taking all the negatives and trying to turn them into positives.I have been trying to enroll on something called the freedom programme. For women who have suffered domestic violence and want to learn more.
I finally found a programme that holds a crèche in the same building after over 6 months of serching.
It’s an hour drive from my home in the morning traffic but I was determined to go.Today was my second week there.
I have made one friend there so far but engaged with a few other women and listened to there story’s.
It’s comforting to be around other women that understand who just get it, who can finish your sentence for you without living your life.
There’s been a few times in the two sessions I have been to that I got emotional but I’ve learnt that it’s ok to cry it’s ok to show how it has affected you and everybody there supports you!I have put my self on a waiting list for counselling specialising in DV with hope this can help too.
I am starting to learn not only about my experience of domestic violence but about myself.
Today I learnt that it’s ok to say NO without feeling guilty, and this is massive for me.Anyway I just wanted to share my journey in hope that I could help.
I would recommend the freedom programme to everybody who has been through any DV if your feeling ready, even if your still in your relationship you won’t be judged we all know how hard it is to leave.
Take care of your lovely selfs and remember you are lovable it’s not you it’s them! -
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Hello. It is lovely to hear you are sharing your experiences. I am reading a book and I find the stories there match exactly what I went through. Knowing that other women have gone through the same and got to the other end of it is massive help in itself.
I wasn’t abused or threatened by my partner but have a history of domestic violence in my family where I was brought up and always ended up in destructive relationships. It is really hard to get the grip of how we then learn to function only in dysfunctional relationships.
Good luck with your journey. I really hope you me and all others here get a better life for ourselves x*x
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