After a difficult few weeks with my abuser and disappointing news from housing I found out that a self contained refuge flat is soon to be available for me and the children. I am a mixture of relieved and terrified at the same time, I’ve started to slowly trickle belongings out and hope to get more stashed before D-Day. I’m so lucky to have an amazing network of supportive people, some friends don’t get me wrong have left me bitterly disappointed, and when I’m in a better frame of mind I’ll address that.
What I’m most terrified of is breaking my youngest’s heart, it is still his dad after all and he loves him regardless of what he does. What I need to remember I’m doing this so that he has a healthy mum that can support him through school.
Hi there. You’re absolutely doing the right thing and the trouble is that your child loves him regardless and that’s a very unhealthy place for him to be because his father will use and abuse him and simply won’t care about his child’s well being. So you’re protecting him. Children are quite resilient. He has you to teach him healthy relationship boundaries, even if it is his father. I think women’s aid have a programme for children too like the Freedom Programme. Ask about that x