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What’s this about, it’s happened more than once.
He sees something, shows me it and asks if I want one / you should get one of those, I say no I don’t like it.
A few weeks / months later he buys it for me, then I’m ungrateful when I point out I said I didn’t want one or that I said I didn’t like it. And he twists it to I’d like it if someone else bought it for me
I don’t understand this behaviour
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Hey Pinkturtle,
They do this to pi*s you off and generally f**k with your mind. Mine use to buy me lovely things, not necessarily expensive but to my taste, in the love bombing stage. But then the gifts became things you’d buy for an old lady and finally they became charity shop items or even things he got out of his mother’s cupboard and wrapped up. Don’t I sound ungrateful?.. but that’s part of the game…You couldn’t complain as you’d be ungrateful, selfish etc. Nevermind, the fact that my gifts to him were always to his taste and expensive enough to show I cared. (Isn’t that the point?) I don’t mind cheaper gifts as long as they aren’t for someone 30 years older or obviously grabbed out of the kitchen cupboard with bits missing.
Rant over, sorry I’m going through a shi**ty time atm.
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Arrrgh! I got the same gift year in year out.
Even when I’d said I didn’t need more and even when I took all of them to a charity shop…more!
If I didn’t like things I was a loads of names etc etc!
I swear they all go to sad weird abuser night school to learn their craft…either that or we are all with the same bloke 🤣 -
Yes, mine started doing that. It’s so he can show how nice he is, but I’m an ungrateful nag who doesn’t really appreciate his thoughtful gesture.
If I question it, he tells me how good his intentions are, while totally ignoring the fact that what he gave me is actually broken and I’d have to spend more time and money getting it fixed that he spent acquiring it in the first place.
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Mine does it with food. I bought you this…I can’t eat that I’m on a diet, you know I’m on a diet. I then have weak moments and eat the thing he bought and then he uses that as a moment to go at me, saying I’m fat, disgusting and I’m ugly, don’t I realise what I am doing to myself and all under the pretence that he’s supporting me in my attempt to be on a diet. I say you shouldn’t have bought that for me then, oh I didn’t realise… it’s a power thing and a controlling thing. Like others have said its a way to manipulate you and also to give you something and then have the ability to take away your power because of it. It wont stop whilst your in the relationship so what you must realise is how nice a person you are for constantly accepting these gifts, you care (however mad it seems) about his feelings. This means you are so much better, you are not the person he makes you out to be, you care about others feelings and you put them above your own. This is a wonderful quality and one he’s manipulating but it’s still a wonderful quality, always remember you would love the gifts if they were given with love.
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