Thanks Serenity, I am still reading Dangerous Personalities by Joe Navvaro. He suggests ‘paying attention to how you feel’ around this person. ‘Knowing the difference between Niceness (which can be fake) and Goodness which is character based’ I am now on chapter 6, Self Defence against Dangerous Personalities and things we can do every day to protect ourselves. I felt angry, suspicious, used and excited around my ex.