Had a good day until he came home

[Pink-butterfly]

Ahhhhh why can’t I just leave ? Why am I so scared to do what I want to do !?

I’ve had a good day today I started the gym I felt really good about myself for once and he’s come home and started shouting at me because I forgot to (detail removed by moderator)… I said I would go shop for him and I apologised for forgetting but apparently I’m useless I do nothing he asks for, we might as well split ip because I don’t give him a what he wants(including sex) he has to check up on me everyday to make sure I’ve done my children’s homework with them and read with them. I don’t need checking up on I’m a good mum!!!
He has really put me down tonight and really hasn’t helped my depression. I just wanna feel happy again.

[Darcy]

Hi beautiful Angel… Pink-butterfly,
Don’t give up hope
I have taken 2 positives from your post so you need to too …
Firstly you said you went to the gym and felt really good… keep this up, anything that you can do that invests in yourself is great and will grow your confidence, which grows your self-esteem, which then strengthens your boundaries of what you allow and don’t allow from other people
Secondly you have written that you are a good Mum, regardless of what your partner says … just because he says you aren’t doesn’t make it fact
These may seem like 2 very small insignificant things in a bad day but if you can focus on the negatives of your day – him being abusive, you can focus on the positives to … its just a mind change
Start to acknowledge the positives however small they may seem, they all add up
The more you start to focus on this and on yourself the more your life will start to change
I believe you have the power to do this and get the life that you want one step at a time
Sending you continued love and support
Darcy xx

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