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1st April 2021 at 5:17 pm #124150
savingthestars
ParticipantHas anyone ran and left the kids behind. I am thinking.. waking away will bring them more stability. I mean if something bad happens then I want to be the one to be there, I just want them to be settled and with me in the picture, I don’t see it.
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3rd April 2021 at 8:39 pm #124239
Lisa
Main ModeratorHi savingthestars,
I see you have posted again since this post so I hope using the forum is helping you. Everyone’s situation is different but others will be able to relate to how you are feeling. If you are in contact with a domestic abuse support worker then using their support to create a safe exit plan will help too.
Keep posting to us when you can.
Best wishes,
Lisa
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3rd April 2021 at 9:01 pm #124240
Cantmakedecisons
ParticipantHey lovely, the answer to that is yes – I did! If I was reading someone’s else’s story then I would question the whys. However being part of an abusive relationship for years and years I knew what I had to do. Thankfully, once I’d left after a period of time I managed to gain access to my children.. it took time and I always knew they wouldn’t be hurt by him. The separation was awful but the abuse was so physical that my children would be left without a mother.
My advice is to talk to lots of people who can help, make a plan, try and be as strong.
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3rd April 2021 at 9:33 pm #124242
savingthestars
ParticipantI am no longer in the relationship (havent been for years) but kids are involved and he still controls me. I have a plan, I just hate myself for said plan. I was just wondering if I was being rational.
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5th April 2021 at 9:17 pm #124349
savingthestars
Participanthe is now getting information from my kids, then asking me about what they said. Its like I get stronger, and he pulls back on the reigns. I was starting to feel comfortable. I do therapy because professionals say i am ill, i get stronger and it means im ill. I want to scream in his face. I want to pull out his hair. If I go he can’t talk through the kids. I have found a few places to live, which is good. And I have to find out what professionals say about kids, but if it means he has control I am gonna have to leave them and hope they won’t be affected too much by my decision.
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