Has anyones

[Anonymous]

Abuser changed? Even for a few weeks or months x

[Hereforhelp]

Even when they are being nice, they haven’t changed as it is part of the cycle of abuse and isn’t real x

[nbumblebee]

I so want to say yes with everything I have I wish I could say yes but I cant.
Mine has nice days maybe nice hours when he is calm kind but theres always a dig it maybe small sometimes i dont catch it striaght away but its there.
Nice days never last they usually follow a bad bad time does he feel guilty? Bad for how he treated me? I doubt it. Maybe its more to keep me here keep me needing him. As much as you wish hope pray they wont, dont want,and will never change.

[Escapee]

I hate to back up all the articles but no they can’t/don’t change.
I tried with mine again after a few years apart. I caught him pull himself together a few times so it was still there (and it proved he could control it when it suited him) but I had changed. He ended it this time but when I talked about it with my therapist she congratuled me! I’d developed and stuck to my boundaries. He couldn’t handle that I no longer jumped to his commands and that I had a life. I was no longer easy to manipulate and he was no longer in control.
So I’m finally emotionally as well as physical free. No more guilt for me carry.

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