Hi, I completely understand this, I’ve been through this. It’s very confusing but the other ladies are right, he brought all this on himself. He had a choice how to behave, he chose to be abusive. That is something he should be punished for .
I went through the court process and he was found guilty – it’s a very difficult process to go through but it really is the right thing to do . Stay strong and remember you didn’t deserve to be treated that way and neither does any other who comes along after x