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he knows were I am in real life, he knows were I go online, he knows how to follow me and monitor my every move, he knows what to say to let know that’s what he is doing, he knows how to manipulate situations to his advantage, he knows how to stop me going out, he knows how to control me without raising a finger and only playing with my mind, this is so cruel and there is no escaping it
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Total no contact with him and he cant control you or play mind games. I thought my ex was all powerful when we first split up. After a while with no contact as the fog of abuse lifts, you will begin to see what a pathetic person he is. Pathetic and needy. We are everything without them, they are nothing without us. Work on staying no contact and get in touch with your local womens aid for support.
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tinkerbell.
Online look up how to keep yourself safe and then go and lock down everything you can and even come off social media. You could set up another profile that only very trusted friends and family have if you need to keep in touch that way.
Phone numbers get them changed, email change them.
talk to WA or another organization who has knowledge of keeping women safe from predators and who will support you.
If he knows where you live can you move?
Don’t contact him at all.
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if you are able to (eg no kids with him), cut out all contact with him and you will eventually see that he has very little power over you anymore. you can’t control what he does, stalking you etc but you can choose to switch off and ignore it. dont say anything online that will give him info about you or, feed him with misinformation… stop telling certain people what you’re up to if you think they will tell him or again misinform them. ignore, ignore, ignore him and try to stop thinking about what he’s doing.
and remember, it’s not the fact he’s such a great manipulator, it’s more, sadly, the fact that society readily sides with and believes the abuser (if he were a woman making the same claims, do you think anyone would listen?) hopefully that thought helps you a bit – he’s not as all powerful as you think and as the other poster said these guys are often just (detail removed by Moderator) who have learned how to play a system that is so biased against women like us (i will normally win a board game if i get all the good cards and better dice rolls and it’s all tilted in my favour – that dont make me a great player it means the game is tainted) x
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You know his game. Once you know his game, you can protect yourself and predict his future moves. Block him, protect your privacy as much as possible, and only share details of your life with those you trust the most. Whenever you sense he’s up to something, reach out for advice.
Knowledge is power. You can bat him off and you can win x
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