He says he’s moving back

[Unsureofwhattodo]

I’ve been out of my relationship for a little while now, and felt safe because he moved to the other side of the country. But now he says he’s moving back.
I’m worried about running into him somewhere. I don’t know where he’ll live, and if him saying he’s moving back was just an empty threat.
I have never filed an official report or complaint. Maybe it would be smart to do something now that distance won’t be protecting me anymore?
I’m going to speak to victim services and see what my options are. He’s not stalking me or constantly contacting me or anything so I don’t know if a restraining order is possible at this point.

[KIP.]

What you could do is get some free legal advice. If a restraining order is not an option then a solicitor letter stating that if he contacts you either directly or indirectly or comes within 100 metres of you then you will take him to court for a non harassment order and you will use this solicitor letter as evidence that he has been warned not to harass you. Your solicitor will word it better. Only you know what his reaction will be. He may ignore it or he may take heed. Either way you have the comfort of it being there should you need to take things further. It could be one big bluff to get a reaction. Which is what he’s looking for. I’d be tempted to wait and see if he does move back. Does he have any reason to move back? Family, job etc? Absolute zero contact is so important. It sounds like you’re still in contact with him.

[Unsureofwhattodo]

Thank you very much for the helpful suggestions, I’ll look into that.

It’s been zero contact for weeks now (didn’t end all that long ago). He contacted me out of the blue yesterday from a number I hadn’t blocked yet.

Thanks again for your reply.

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